If you haven’t read John C Wright’s On the Sexual Nature of Man, then you should. He’s a good writer, and makes many good points. In the essay he’s discussing the Sexual Revolution, which obviously, any idiot can see has been an utter disaster for the ability of normal men and women to form families. However, one point of his essay stuck in my mind. “4.4 MEN ARE JERKS”
…females have been disadvantaged, exploited, and betrayed by the lusts of men since the dawn of time, and men seek to keep women in a position of weakness, to rob them of their natural rights, because both masculine indifference and masculine ego urges them to do so.
He advances the idea that men spawned the Sexual Revolution, because we wanted to get in women’s pants, because we are naturally sexually immoral, because we “are jerks.”
In contrast is the standard manosphere wisdom, endlessly spouted by Rollo, that the Feminine Imperative is the cause; that the Sexual Revolution was women freeing themselves from the restraints on their sexuality so they could pursue alpha bad boys and ride the carousel.
These ideas seem contradictory to me. Which is right?
Obviously, many men are actually jerks, and will take actions that harm women for their own sexual pleasure. Obviously, many women freely choose to ride the carousel and love to pursue alpha bad boys.
It might be typical intellectualizing to say it, but it seems like this is a matter of more complexity than mere “men are jerks” or “women are feral.” I think both are true, and at play in different ways.
Rich and powerful men loved and encouraged the Sexual Revolution, since it gave them free reign, since they were the alphas that the women would flock to. And these men successfully sold the lie to the majority of normal beta dudes that the sexual revolution would be good for them too, since it fans a man’s pride to be told that he’s an alpha. Alphas said to the betas, “You’re an alpha too. You’ll get to have tons of wild sex if we can just throw off this old ball and chain of Matrimony.” And the betas ate that shit up. Turns out though, that all betas can really manage is a series of unstable short-term relationships with alpha widows, followed by a 10 year marriage to a girl who is about to hit the wall, then a soul-crushing divorce, and finally some fentanyl to wash it all down. “Hey, at least you got laid.” says the ever-growing incel population.
So, yes, some men really are jerks. But, no, the Sexual Revolution is not to the advantage of the majority of men.
What about the ladies? Instead of alphas/betas, I divide women into married/unmarried. In the case of the ladies, despite not having personally lived through the sexual revolution, I think it’s pretty clear that the majority of the married women were not participants or proponents of “Free Love.” It’s the young and sexually powerful single ladies who broke the monopoly price of marriage before sex. Why? Were they just horny? Maybe some were. But I bet for a lot of the now-bitter cat ladies who helped to ruin society by destroying our sexual mores the calculus was a lot more rational. At the time of the Sexual Revolution, there were many more women of marrying age than men. Go look it up. This creates a scarcity of attractive men to marry. So how’s your 6.5 hotness normal girl to compete? Settle for a beta? No way! Instead, if she just sluts it up a bit, she can steal the attention of an alpha chad, and then try to insinuate herself in his life until she wears him down and he marries her. Sexual availability is a competition strategy. Of course, it’s not a wise strategy, but it does in fact often succeed in getting a girl the temporary attention of an alpha. The really hot single women, the 9s and 10s, didn’t need to do this. They already had the attention of alphas. They could make em wait. It’s only with the increased competition from their uglier sisters that they too feel the squeeze and decide to start putting out earlier.
So basically, I think it was the bottom cute-but-not-really-hot girls combining forces with the top men to force the rest of society to give up on prudent sexual mores and destroy the fertility and maintainability of Western Civilization. Thanks guys and girls. You both suck.